The 5 Love Languages

1 -Compliments

2 -Gifts

3 -Service

4 -Quality time

5 -Touch

I saw the book (# The Five Love Languages - Gary Chapman ) on my friend Leighs blog and got it out from the library for a squiz. I finished it the day before the "Aspects of Love" retreat. When I arrived at the retreat I found that it had been planned around the 5 love languages book. No coincidences in this live, I say.

I started using the compliments when I arrived in Canberra. At first it felt like I was loosing something and it was hard to get them out. I noticed people changed the way they behaved towards me, like straight away, so I was encouraged to keep going. I never say something as a compliment that is not true for me. I don't bullshit. My job is to build people up. Sometimes though, I have to give them a reality check and it undoes it but Im trying.

During the week I went to visit a friend out of the blue (normal working hours). It was on my way to collect the computer that had been at the shop getting the Trojan removed. When I got there my friend was very happy to see me and asked me to have a cup of tea with her. I wasn't going to stay but decided when I saw her lovely face she had lost her normal bright and energetic way. So I stayed and we chatted about this low period. In this time I just loved her up, told her that her energy (which is palpable and confronting when you first come in contact with it) is the most amazing about her and secondly, that she only does what Godde put her on this earth to do. I just kept slipping things like what a wonderful mother and grandmother she is into the conversation amongst other fabulous stuff she does very well too. So by the time I started to leave I notice she had recovered 3/4 of the energy she normally has. Shes not a touch person, so I just stood close to her and said take care. She actually put her arms around me and we had a nice long hug. So in that scenario, I used complements, service ( i stayed longer), gifts (my honesty), quality time ( i focused only on her and let her see my emotions through my facial expressions) and touch.

I like this concept of the 5.

Here are some Autumn peepers I found today outside the National Art Gallery.